Saturday, August 4, 2018

Running the Race with Endurance August 4, 2018


Hebrews 12:1
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.  And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfector of faith.  For the joy set before him, he endured the cross, scorning its shame and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.  Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

I had a lot of time to my thoughts and prayers today.   Five hours of time to Be Still with the Lord in His creation.  Well, to be more precise, I had 4 hours, 59 minutes and 46 seconds, and I was moving the entire time, but my heart and soul were at rest with the Lord.  As I ran up and down (and up and down) a couple of mountains, I was amazed at everything the Lord showed me about life.

Today, I ran the HURL Elkhorn 23k (15 miles)…15.2 if you ask the GPS on my phone.  This race is hard.  The first 4 miles are a nice run, but then you head straight up a mountain eventually crossing a ridge, dropping down into a gorgeous valley and then back up and over the next mountain.  The last 5-6 miles are “pretty nice” too – meaning they are not vertical or a scree field.  It is horrible, and it is awesome, or as I like to say, “Horribly awesome.”  The views are unbelievable.  It is always worth the run, work, pain and strain to get to the top of each mountain.

Much like our lives…we all desire those mountain top experiences with the Lord.  But how do we get there? In real life, we don’t just swoop in with a helicopter, and we can’t expect to do this spiritually either.  On this earth and in my race, our journey to a mountain top involves a lot of hard work and pain to get through all the mud and mire and muck, the rocks, weeds, logs and trees that trip us and block our way.  There are ups and downs and back ups and back downs on the way to the top.  We must cross raging creeks and deep dark valleys and dodge wild animals and horseflies.  The sun beats down on us or storm cells roll over the mountain.  It is a constant battle to make it to the top, where our beaten and battered bodies are refreshed by the views.

How true this is on the race the Lord sets before each of us!  We long to reach the spiritual mountaintop, but we often must face the adversity, the character building, the struggles of life and faith, wallow through the mud and mire and muck of sin or sickness or injury.  But in the end, it is well worth it to be strong in the Lord and to be refreshed by His work and presence in our lives.
To run a race, such as mine today, most people will train ahead of time.  We prepare.  We spend months building up our stamina and endurance so we can call on them on race day when our training and preparation is tested.  Did we bring enough water?  Do we have enough gel packs and are we taking and using them properly?  What about sunblock? And TP? Proper training and preparation is essential in preparing us for the difficult race ahead.

Likewise, we must train and prepare in advance for the race the Lord has set before us.  By studying, reading, and memorizing God’s word, we store up his truths in our hearts and minds, then, when we are tested, they are already stored in the bank of our minds and ready to be used.  We can rely on His promises found in His word if the road ahead looks difficult and rocky.

Race directors and volunteers prepare the trail in advance of the races long before we arrive on race day.  They cut back fallen trees, repair trails and mark the course to keep us from becoming lost.  So does the Lord.  Do you not think He has the same consideration for His own children?  He knows the road ahead.  He has already been there.  He goes before us and leads us through conviction and the Holy Spirit.  He is with us and guides us through dark valleys and hard times to bring us to the mountain top and the finish line.  The race director’s work is in vain if we do not pay attention.  We must listen to the instructions and trail markers, so we do not go off course and get lost.  Today a gentleman missed a corner and continued to run.  He ran for miles without seeing a single trail marker or an aid station.  He should have turned around and looked for his error to get back on the right path.  How often do we do this in our life?  The Lord set up trail markers to keep us on the right path…and there are warning signs when we get off on a tangent…but we must pay attention to them so we can get back on track with the Lord.

We must diligently take care during our race, to avoid being tripped up by hidden dangers.  In my case, today there were many rocks hidden in the grass.  With all of the creek crossings, you had to be extremely careful to keep your shoes dry to prevent blisters from forming.  Christians must be aware of temptations or compromises with the world that also trip us up, slow us down or even injure us on our journey.  Like wet shoes, a life compromised with worldliness can fester and cause blisters that require substantial work to repair the damage in our lives.

While we are out on a race, nearly everyone is “in it together” even though we are all on a different journey.  Oh, certainly the race course is the same for us, but my race is not the same as the 70 year old talker, and our two races are not the same as the pregnant lady from North Carolina, or the mom and her high school student, or the ultra-runner who finished before I thought of starting.  My race this year isn’t even the same as my race last year.  It is the same race course and final destination, but the Lord gave each of us our own journey.  The Lord has set each Christian on their own race and journey even when the destination is the same.  Some reach it faster.  Some reach it slower.  It appears to be easier for some and harder for others.  We are called to only do the journey and race set before us and not another person’s journey.  We cannot compare our gifts, our journeys or our burdens.  We are called to simply love one another. 

From a friend who shared advice on how to fuel myself during the race, to the young man who tried to give me a hand over a creek to keep my shoes dry, to other runners who cheerfully chatted or encouraged us along the way, to the aid station workers and finish line volunteers with shouts, cheers and cowbells, our race experience is enriched.  We shared the journey.  They helped me to complete my race.  Our church family is the same.  When someone “accidentally makes too much” pulled pork or meatball soup or pasta (each one with all the trimmings), you are helping us over the rocks.  When someone takes Rob for a scenic drive or stops to visit, you are helping pull him out of the mud and across the stream.  Your many prayers smooth the trail and help us feel Jesus leading and guiding us.  Gifts that “randomly” appear or items which are “anonymously” paid for all help get us to the finish line.  You are sharing our journey and helping us to complete the race set before us.

I crossed the finish line today solely on the strength of the Lord.  His strength willed my weary legs to continue running.  I had not trained enough this summer, because of Rob’s battle with depression, anxiety, insomnia, chronic pain, etc., and we “lost” 2 months of our summer.  My duty was with him, not running.  Three to four appointments per week made it difficult to find time to run.  Praise the Lord he is well on the mend. Rob always supports my running because I run to be healthy and strong to care for him.  Additionally, I have been hindered training this summer with quite a bit of pain keeping me from pushing hard enough.  I have some weird hip issues and 2 weeks before the race my knee popped when I was picking raspberries.  It is not a happy knee, but it will be okay.  I also thought I had a conflict on race day and didn’t know until a few days ahead of time that I would be able to race.  So I was very much unprepared.  I almost cancelled.  But then I remembered why I do it.  This is a non-motorized trail.  Rob will never have the opportunity to see the beautiful country.  So it is my obligation to go and see it for him, and bring back pictures to try to show him the grandeur. I even ordered my race shirt in his size, because I run this race specifically for him and in the hope that I can glorify God.  He deserves the shirt.  His race is harder to run than my own.  My goal was to beat 5 hours.  I highly doubted I could do it especially in the middle of the race.  Those middle 8 miles are terrible, where the rugged mountains reduce my mile splits to 33 minutes per mile.  Additionally, I spent time stopping to take pictures for Rob here and there.  But it is during those hard times when we must believe.  We must trust.  We must keep our eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith.  And so I praised and prayed my way UP and down the trail. I took pictures. I focused on Jesus.  I thought about Rob.  I put one foot in front of the other and watched my knee carefully.  I got passed by a very friendly and very pregnant lady.  And I just kept going.  Lord, I prayed, get me to the finish line! And when the trail evened out a little, I worked hard to start running again, even though my hips screamed until I got them stretched back out.  I pushed…for Rob…for the glory of my Lord…and my phone announced 4 hours, 57 minutes and some odd seconds.  I could hear the finish line in the distance and knew I wouldn’t make it in time.  But, I prayed, “Lord, give me the strength and endurance to run all the way to the end no matter how long it takes.”  Hilariously, I crossed the finish line with 14 seconds to spare.  God has a sense of humor and loves to bless and reward his children.

Today, I needed His strength to get me up and over the mountains, through creeks and still RUN the last several miles to the finish line.

Every single day I need His strength to get me through this journey – the race he set before me – and I know He will be faithful to see me through to the end.  Because He loves me and desires to bless His children.  So, I will continue to praise and pray and worship Him.  For He is good and His love endures forever.  With Him, I will finish this race too.



Friday, June 1, 2018

When God gives us more than we can handle

This is a fantastic article! 
Read the whole thing!!

https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/why-god-gives-us-more-than-we-can-handle


Article by 
Staff writer, desiringGod.org
The next time someone says that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle, point them to Judges 7. God’s instructing Gideon to take on over 100,000 enemy soldiers with just 300 fits in the “more than you can handle” category. Imagine how Gideon and his servant, Purah, must have felt trying to come to grips with a humanly impossible assignment.
Standing on the side of Mount Gilboa, Gideon gazed over the Valley of Jezreel, which sprawled beneath him northward toward the hill of Moreh. The valley was a sea of tents, teeming with more than 100,000 Midian warriors.
That morning, the Lord had judged Israel’s army of 32,000 too big to face Midian’s. Israel would think more highly of himself than he ought to think when God gave him victory. So Gideon had sent home whoever was afraid. When 22,000 hit the road, Gideon had to quiet his own fear. Now Israel was outnumbered ten-to-one. But God was with them and armies had overcome such odds before.
Oddly, the Lord considered these odds still too much in Israel’s favor. So in to the Lord’s instruction, Gideon brought his small, thirsty army down to the spring of Harod. And he gave his servant, Purah, the strangest command of his brief military career: “Observe all the men as they drink. Have every man who laps his water like a dog stand off to the side.”
Gideon supervised the selection, but when so few were being chosen, he just let Purah finish the count and he climbed back up Gilboa to pray and survey.
It wasn’t long before Purah emerged from the trees. “So what’s the total?”
“Three hundred, sir,” said Purah.
Gideon chuckled to himself. “Three hundred.” He looked back toward the human hoard in the valley and was quiet for a moment. “That’s less than I expected.”
“Yes, sir,” said Purah. “But thankfully, three hundred doesn’t reduce our strength much.”
Gideon breathed deeply. “No, Purah. The three hundred are not the reductions. They’re the army. The others are the reductions.”
Purah stood dazed for a moment, staring at Gideon. “The three hundred are the army?”
Gideon nodded slowly, still looking into the Midian-infested Jezreel.
“But that’s not an army! That’s how many should be guarding an army’s baggage!”
Purah stepped up beside Gideon. Together they watched smoke columns rising from ten times more cooking fires than they now had warriors. Purah shook his head and said, “Even if we were all like the mighty men of old, three hundred could not overcome 100,000.” He paused. “And we aren’t mighty men.” Another pause. “And there’s more than a 100,000 down there.”
Both were silent for a while. In the quiet, the Lord spoke to Gideon, “With the 300 men who lapped I will save you and give the Midianites into your hand, and let all the others go every man to his home.
Then Gideon said to Purah, “During the exodus, how many mighty men did it take to destroy Egypt and its army or part the Red Sea?”
Purah thought briefly. “None.”
“How many did it take to tear down Jericho’s walls?”
“None.”
“How many did it take to feed two million of our people in the wilderness every day for forty years?”
“None. I get your point.”

things appear.”
“In our people’s history, the mightiest have not been the strong warriors,” Gideon said. “The mightiest have been those who trusted in the Lord and obeyed him, no matter how impossible things appeared. He has promised us that Midian will be defeated. He has chosen only three hundred of us. We will obey; he will act. And when Midian falls, it will be clear to everyone who felled him.” Then he looked at Purah and smiled. “Maybe the Lord just needs us to guard his baggage!”
Purah didn’t laugh. He only replied, “Should we dismiss the others?” Gideon nodded.
Later that night, in the tiny camp, Gideon lay praying. Every plan to mobilize 300 against 100,000 seemed ludicrous.
Suddenly, he was aware of the Presence. He sat up, his heart beating fast.
The Lord said, “Arise, go down against the camp, for I have given it into your hand. But if you are afraid to go down, go down to the camp with Purah your servant. And you shall hear what they say, and afterward your hands shall be strengthened to go down against the camp.
Purah woke to Gideon’s nudge and whispered words, “Let’s go.”
“Where are we going?” Purah whispered back, getting up quickly.
“To the Midian camp, just you and me. The Lord has something he wants to show us.”
They quietly crept toward the nearest Midian outpost, veiled by the clouded sky, and saw two inattentive guards talking. Just as they got within earshot, one said, “I had a strange dream before being woken for duty tonight.”
“Tell me,” the other said.
“This cake of barley came tumbling into our camp, crashed into the tent, turned it over, and flattened it.”
The other guard looked at him alarmed and said, “I know what that means! The cake can be none other than Gideon, the son of Joash! God has given us all into his hand!”
Gideon and Purah looked at one another with the same stunned expressio

Cast Your Cares

With renewed faith, Gideon and Purah roused their mini army and launched a night attack. This threw the Midians into a panic and they slaughtered each other in confusion. It was a rout. Not one of Gideon’s three hundred perished in the battle. God gave them more than they could handle to force them to rely wholly on him.
“God gives us more than we can handle to force us to rely wholly on him.”
When we’re confronted with an impossible situation or trial, Gideon’s three hundred preach to us that “salvation . . . is from the Lord” (Psalm 37:39) and “if God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31). These are no domesticated platitudes. God really intends for us to cast our all on these massive truths and for them to give us more-than-conquerors confidence and peace (Romans 8:37), no matter what we face.
It is not hyperbole to say that the defeat of our sin that Jesus accomplished on the cross dwarfs Gideon’s victory. Compared to overcoming God’s wrath against our sin, defeating 100,000 Midianites was very small. And if God “did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things” (Romans 8:32)?
God certainly does give us more than we can handle. And he does it “to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead” (2 Corinthians 1:9). If you’re facing some overwhelming adversary or adversity and you wonder how God could possibly deliver and work it for your good (Romans 8:28), then take heart. He is granting you the joy of experiencing the reality of Judges 7, Romans 8, and 2 Corinthians 1.

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Pain in the Neck (and Back)


Pain in the Neck (and Back)
May 30, 2018

Right now, Rob has unbearable pain.  No matter what he does or tries, his back and neck hurt.  He also has constant headaches.  We have tried:
·         Chiropractic
·         Massage
·         Physical therapy
·         Cryotherapy
·         Multiple doctors
·         Pain pills
·         Several topicals (icy hot, lidocaine, biofreeze, deep blue, etc)
·         Essential oils
·         Anything else a person can think of – we have tried it

He does not get relief.
His pain tolerance is gone.
He calls me at work to tell me how bad he feels.  All. Day. Long.

It seems to me, like his dementia affects his ability to tolerate pain, to interpret where the pain is coming from, and how bad the pain is.  His anxiety compounds the issue.  If he doesn’t hurt, he is worried about when it will start to hurt, and how bad it will hurt.  If he even starts to get a little tense or tight, he panics about how bad it will get.  If he doesn’t believe a new treatment will work, he gets upset within minutes.  He did not expect cryotherapy to work, and he was doing so much better that day than he has been in two weeks, but by the time we drove 20 minutes down the road, he was convinced it did not work and refused to go back.  Similarly, when he thinks or expects something to work, he becomes obsessed with it, even if it doesn’t make much difference.  He spent two weeks making us all massage him 24-7.  Now he got ahold of a big vibrating massager (like the chiropractor uses).  He calls it the buffer and is constantly asking us to “buff his back out.” (Once a body man, always a body man – even if he was a diesel mechanic for almost 30 years! Ha ha)

He calls me at work to ask if I can come home and use it.  My mom has taken the brunt of the afternoon massage requests, God bless her. 

We have an appointment with the neurologist and the back/pain management doctor, but we need to do something to get him through to those appointments.  Between the pain, the insomnia, the depression, etc., Rob feels like he is trapped in prison.  He stares at the clock or his watch, just waiting for the next dose of Tylenol/advil/exedrin/whatever works. 

We are ready, now, for prayers that the Lord takes him home sooner rather than later, to ease his suffering. He wants to be with Jesus and be whole again.  To be 100% body, mind and soul.  Better than 100% on earth - but in his new, perfect, Heavenly self.

However, Romans 8:28 says that we KNOW that God works ALL things together for the good of those who love him.  And we love Him.  So we KNOW, that God can somehow use this for good.  And that is good enough with us. 

Friday, May 25, 2018

Falling off a Cliff May 2018


Falling off a Cliff
May 2018
Degenerative diseases like Huntington’s are hard to describe.  Every day is different.  Each day has a new challenge.  As soon as you think you know what to expect, everything changes.

It has been easiest for me to describe Rob’s journey as “one step forward, two steps back.”  A gradual decline, but one that continues to speed up.  It used to be one step forward, two steps back every 6 months.  Then every month, his symptoms were one-step-forward, two-steps-back.  Then weekly, Rob took one step forward and two steps back.  As the disease has progressed, it became one step forward and two steps back daily.  But, he continued to hold his own, for the most part.  We’ve lived the last year or so, living a modified version of our normal life.  Then one day about the end of April, he took his one step forward, and two steps back, but stepped right off a cliff and plummeted.  Overnight.

We had been snowmobiling once a week, and Rob was working on projects at home with his same positive outlook.  Yes, his balance was getting worse.  Yes, his memory was getting worse.  Yes, his involuntary movements were getting worse.  Yes, he struggled with his voluntary movements.  Yes, he lost patience quickly when working on projects…but it was do-able.  He was still simply living a changed version of his normal life.

And then, he stepped off that cliff. 
Overnight his symptoms increased 10 fold.           

Mentally:  His dementia increased.  He became paranoid and suffered panic attacks.  He had extreme anxiety about being home alone.  He became very depressed and frustrated and despondent about his symptoms and his future. 
His short term memory was gone. He was very confused.  He couldn’t keep track of anything.  He would take advil and forget he took it one minute later. 
He developed extreme OCD – he would do nothing but stare at the clock and check his watch every 20 seconds, waiting for his next dose of medicine 4 hours later.
Physically:  He developed insomnia – also overnight.  One night he slept and the next he didn’t.  He got 6 hours of sleep in 8 days.  We went through 3 prescription sleep meds before we found 1 that works for about 3 hours per night. 
Suddenly, he was in constant pain.  He developed a permanent headache.  His back started hurting.  He was miserable, uncomfortable and in pain with no relief.  He can’t sit, stand or lay down for more than a few minutes.  His back and neck started getting really tight and sore so he could not find a comfortable way to sit down during the day. We tried every OTC pain medicine we could with little success.  He has extreme OCD about taking his “headache medicine” every 4 hours.   We tried chiropractic treatment, physical therapy, cryotherapy, massage, etc. to no avail.    
He is miserable, negative, anxious and obsessive compulsive.  He looks at his watch every 10 seconds, to see when his next dose of medicine is.  He says he can only “kill time” between doses of medication.  He argues that he can’t sit down long enough to watch tv or a movie, but then he sits all day.  We bought him a recliner because the couch wasn’t comfortable, but the recliner is not comfortable enough.  He argues with every suggestion I have for him. 

I knew days like these were coming, but I expected the change to be gradual and the sudden downturn in his health caught me by surprise.  I have to help dose his medications.  I have to give multiple back rubs and apply icy hot/deep blue/biofreeze/etc all day and night.  He calls me at work and talks for an hour about how miserable he is.  If I get him off the phone, he calls after 10 minutes go by.  He is trying so hard to sleep, that he can’t sleep. He spends hours analyzing how he feels.  Sometimes I wonder if the pain is as bad as he says it is, or if he just thinks it is that bad, or if he is panicking because he is afraid it will get bad.  But he has called and said, “this is killing me!” so I assume it is pretty painful.

His circulation is so bad that if he lays down, his hands and feet get cold and his vision gets blurred, so he sleeps with wool socks and gloves on.  He dwells on his immediate, earthly future and is depressed.  He argues with me over every suggestion I make. He wants the recliner, so one of us will get out of it, but then won’t sit in it because it hurts.  He wants something to do, but then says he doesn’t have the energy to do it.  He wants to lay down, but won’t because he thinks he will get a headache.  He wants to sleep in but is worried about waking up in 3 hours to take his meds.  He wants us to spend all our time with him, but when we try to get him out of the house he becomes angry and refuses to do stuff with us. He struggles to have a conversation, so instead of talking to us, he sits with his eyes closed, “listening” to us talk, or else he repeatedly tells us over and over how miserable he is…over…and…over…24-7.  For over a month, he only talks about being miserable.  We sympathize with him, but it is relentless negativity.  The kids and I are exhausted from the negativity but it is all his brain can think of.  We try hard to distract him, or encourage him to participate in family time, or look at the positive side of things…but he just argues with us.  He complains he has nothing to do to fill his days, but when I suggest having people come visit with him for an hour here and there, he gets very agitated and has an anxiety attack and doesn’t want to attempt to have a conversation with them.

So, more appointments are on the calendar.  Neurologists, pain specialists, back doctors, etc.  Because we HAVE to do something.  We have to give him quality of life during these last years.  He deserves to at least be comfortable.  It is so strange.  It is like we were suddenly thrust into a hospice care situation, without an imminent death, so it is a never-ending hospice….more like a hostage situation for Rob.  Trapped in this earthly tent, waiting on his mansion in heaven.  This is not hospice care for 6 days or 6 weeks or even 6 months.  This could last years.  So we HAVE to get some pain relief.  We HAVE to get him to sleep again.  We HAVE to do something about his anxiety.

Every day I ask God for strength, peace, wisdom, patience, compassion and kindness.  This is the job the Lord has given me – to care for Rob – and I need to do a good job for the Lord.  And for Rob, whom I love.  I need to serve the Lord by serving Rob.  I have to love him the best I can love him and care for him the best I can care for him.  He is still my best friend and the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, even though I don’t get to see that person very often.  I can’t get frustrated or annoyed when he expresses his negative thoughts for the umpteenth time.  I have to continue to fight him to get him out of the house to go to church.  I have to force him outside or on even small family activities with the kids.  Because he deserves to be treated well, and because the Lord has asked me to do so.

I try.  I fail.  I try again.  I fail some more.  I want God to be glorified, somehow, through this journey, but how? 

I know the Lord is burning the impurities away.  I know He is purifying our character.  But many days I feel as though I fail God and Rob.  Trust me – any good you see in me is ALL Jesus.  It is only Him, it is not me.  It is HIS strength covering my weaknesses.  And I need more.
            More of His strength
More of His peace
More of His wisdom
More of His love
More of His tender mercies

Morning by morning new mercies I see.  All I have needed, thy hand has provided.  Great is Thy Faithfulness, Lord unto me.

Update May 25:  Depression comes in waves.  Rob’s attitude is improving.  He is adjusting.  This sudden change in his symptoms also caught him off guard.  But he is slowly learning his new normal with us.  He has tried to come along with us to certain things.  He tried to come along when Heidi wanted to do something outside for her birthday.  All we did was go to the Three Forks ponds to drown some worms, because we didn’t think he could do more.  We had to force him and bring good lawn chairs.  But he spent most of his time sitting in the car.  Then we took the fastest route home because he could not even handle sitting in the seat any longer.  He came along when I drove Cody to basketball training and came into Home Depot with me to buy a toilet seat and a shower head.  But that was enough to completely wear him out.  He was done.  I got more advil in him and he even came inside to watch the last 10 minutes of basketball.  He has become quite grateful for us.  He is constantly thanking us for helping him, even when he is being demanding.  He says he has no regrets.  He says, “well, we’ve had a good run.  I couldn’t have done it without you.”  Huntington’s is just one, long goodbye.